..Sticks and Stones..

When checking my comments the other day, I was faced with a rather unpleasant comment to one of my latest blogs. I removed it until i decided what it is I wanted to do about it. After long and careful consideration I've decided that it needs addressing (note: NOT defending!). So I'm reposting it up here for the simplest reason that my answer is too long to be put under comments.

Commented by Anonymous at May 29, 2008 1:41 PM
you do not need to flash your happiness to the world if you are really happy. won't you be content to just keep it between both of you? MM, you have an ex-wife and ex-gf to protect too. so please don't overdoing it. you know it will hurt them.

Dear Anonymous,

Number 1: This is MY blog. It is here for the sole purpose of updating both friends and family. Therefore, I am entitled to share whatsoever I choose to. That's why its dramatothemama.blogspot.com and not www.cnn.com

Number 2: Yes I am perfectly content to keep it between the both of us. But on the other hand, why should I? What and why do I have to hide?

Number 3: I'm not speaking on MM's behalf, so his reasons may be different. However, please note the keyword here is 'ex'. There is a reason for it, whether it’s his fault or not. That is personal and I'm not getting involved in it.

Number 4: I regret it if his happiness hurts them. However as I understand, all parties are still friends. Therefore is he not entitled to move on? Is he not allowed to be happy? When his exes eventually move on are they expected to hide it from him? How selfish of you to presume so.

What level of happiness is permitted then? Do we go into our futures hiding our joy because we don't want to offend our exes? Is that fair too all?

If this be the case then why after a break-up do you not scream at all the couples walking down the street holding hands and being happy? Because it is their right. Everyone deserves their happiness. It might upset us to be faced with it, but that’s life, and we have to learn to adjust, however hard it may be.

I respect the women that came before me in his past. They are important to him in their own ways. I merely ask that I too am respected as his present and (I hope!) future.

Peace,
Jessica